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Open Question: Never paid much attention to Michael Jackson but ever since his death i'm obsessed with him...is that wierd?

of course, i still thought he was really talented and one of the best musicians of all time, and i did listen to some of his music every now and then, but i didn't spend a whole lot of time on him...(i'm 19 years old by the way) ever since hearing of his death i've developed this obsession with him.. like i bought his "Number 1;s" CD, i can't stop listening to his music, i've looked up on youtube to see whatever videos there are of him, and really the only thing on my mind since last week has been michael jackson. i watched some of the very few interviews he's done and he seems like such a sweet, loving, caring man... and a genuinely nice person. it really touched my heart to see how kind he was to bring all the children to his ranch all the time and all the work he did to help them. and i felt bad to see how he was taken advantage of by Martin Bashir in "Living with Michael Jackson" and how he portrayed Michael in a bad way when really he cut out the parts where he was saying good stuff.. because then i watched "Living with Michael Jackson, take two"... and i was shocked! is this wierd? i feel so bad and regret that i never took the time before his death to get to know the kind of person he was, and i really wish i had because if i had known before what a nice person he was it would have been such an honour to meet him (if i ever tried to and succeeded), or even go to one of his shows. i'm ashamed to say this but i think i let my familys opinion influence mine... my dad and brother thought he was wierd...talented but wierd... and i don't know if that could have been why i didn't pay much attention to him but im so ashamed of myself if that is why and i did let their opinion influence mine. Michael Jackson didn't deserve all the scrutiny that the media put him under, and now, after taking the time to get the know the kind of guy he was, he is such a great role model, and such a sweet, caring, loving man and i think he's the greatest man of all time - both musically and personally/spiritually. more

Open Question: is this wierd.. never paid much attention to Michael Jackson but ever since his death i'm obsessed with him...?

of course, i still thought he was really talented and one of the best musicians of all time, and i did listen to some of his music every now and then, but i didn't spend a whole lot of time on him...(i'm 19 years old btw) ever since hearing of his death i've developed this obsession with him.. like i bought his "Number 1;s" CD, i can't stop listening to his music, i've looked up on youtube to see whatever videos there are of him, and really the only thing on my mind since last week has been michael jackson. i watched some of the very few interviews he's done and he seems like such a sweet, loving, caring man... and a genuinely nice person. it really touched my heart to see how kind he was to bring all the children to his ranch all the time and all the work he did to help them. and i felt bad to see how he was taken advantage of by Martin Bashir in "Living with Michael Jackson" and how he portrayed Michael in a bad way when really he cut out the parts where he was saying good stuff.. because then i watched "Living with Michael Jackson, take two"... and i was shocked! is this wierd? i feel so bad and regret that i never took the time before his death to get to know the kind of person he was, and i really wish i had because if i had known before what a nice person he was it would have been such an honour to meet him (if i ever tried to and succeeded), or even go to one of his shows. i'm ashamed to say this but i think i let my familys opinion influence mine... my dad and brother thought he was wierd...talented but wierd... and i don't know if that could have been why i didn't pay much attention to him but im so ashamed of myself if that is why and i did let their opinion influence mine. Michael Jackson didn't deserve all the scrutiny that the media put him under, and now, after taking the time to get the know the kind of guy he was, he is such a great role model, and such a sweet, caring, loving man and i think he's the greatest man of all time - both musically and personally/spiritually. more

Open Question: vet techs-hamster experts-euthanasia question,please help?

i have an elderly female hamster.she looked just not right yesterday around midnite.when i woke up,she was sleeping in a large amount of blood from her back end,and looked very bad.i have seen elderly hamsters dying b4,and she looked like she would pass soon.i talked with my mom and my husband and we all thought it best to let her peacefully sleep the last few hours/day,rather than take her in the car,to the vet,have her poked and prodded and then put down,most likely.i always have my pets put to sleep when the time comes,but i recently read hamsters are not given a needle,but put in a box and suffocated with a gas.this may be necessary sometimes,but she shows no sign of pain-no writhing or squeaking,just sleeping calmly.i thought it would be better for her to drift off and die in her sleep than to be suffocated,which seems stressful and horrific to me and my family.my husband and i had to work today,i expected her to pass when we were gone,but she moved a little,then went back to sleep when i checked on her just now.should we take her to an emergency clinic if she is still here 2morro,should i give her pedialyte to make her more comfortable,or just leave her alone?was i cruel to try to let her pass on her own,should i have taken her to the vet b4 to be put to sleep?right now,she is sleeping in her aquarium in the quiet spare bedroom where i keep her,out of the way of cats/dogs/family,so she is in a calm and quiet environment.rodent experts,hamster fans,vets or vet techs-if this was ur hamster,what would u do? i dont think this is something she will recover from,she is very old and i expected in the next few months,something might happen-she is at the end of the average hamster lifespan.please advise me,thanx to all!(sorry so long,but i had to explain)ps-her sister was operated on,then put to sleep when she came down with cancer on her leg in april.she had medical care,but refused to eat or drink and the vet said it was time.i did not know then,how hamsters are put down,but i still would have had to do it,the other hamster was squeaking and restless-signs of pain. more

Open Question: having trouble balancing while horse riding, help!?

so i'm a novice rider. at the moment i've been learning to canter, doesn't help that i haven't had structured lessons since i was a kid, i will ride 3 or 4 times then stop again for a few months. anyway. it's difficult for me to sit to canter anyway, i find myself feeling "behind" the horse's movement, leaning right back and feeling very unbalanced. on top of that i have real trouble keeping my feet in the stirrups, one foot more than the other weirdly. i have small feet anyway, not sure if that makes a difference. but they are always slipping out, which mean i have real trouble using my leg aids because my feet slip all over the place. this is worst in canter, i ride school ponies so they will stop cantering at the drop of a hat, but trying to continually kick them along during canter is just like impossible for me, my feet slip and i lose my balance and the horse slows. i can't even imagine what jumping would be like. i watch people ride and the horses play up, shake their heads, have dodgy take offs or landings but they still stay on and absorb the movement, and it looks so natural too. how do they do it? what are they holding on to? i had a theory that the reins act as a support in the same way that ski poles do, not attached to anything so completely useless for physical support, but because you're holding onto them you feel more secure and more in control than if you didn't have them. so can anyone offer any advice? other than obviously take up riding full time not part time, and i will when the time is right. i really want to be good at this. i'm one of these people who is so connected with the world of horses (stable life, shows etc.) but at the same time is completely outside it (been riding since i was a kid but never long enough to be any good at it, don't own my own horse) more

Open Question: my girlfriend got in a problem and i just cant help her anymore:(:( this is really sad for me?

idk where to start so idk my girlfriend used to be emo she told me she didnt wanted to be called emo even doe she cut herself i tryed to help her she even stoped cutting herself cause of me, it was so sad to find out she cutted herself i thought she was so happy. then after a month her little sister showed me some pictures of my girlfriend she was we wearing colorful stuff n she didnt had any cuts in her arm that was more sad for me to know (i wanted to cry) n those pictures where from two years aga... then another month passed she seemed so happy her cuts became scares n i would always make her laugh but a few weeks she called me n told me she didnt loved nobody not even herself she said she wanted to kill herself but i know she doesnt want to shes just confused i know that i know shes very strong n very happy inside of her i know it so i told her 'kill urself u dnt have da guts' i knew i shouldnt say dad but it hurted me to just listen to her saying that like if she didnt care bout me or nothing the next day she doesnt want to talk to me she did say some word like i asked her if she loved me and she said no, no, no but then she said only as a best friend so that was more sad i was so shocked for all that we spend together all the times she laughed n told me that she loved me i thought that wasnt going to end never i just want to know wath can i do i dont want to see her cry everytime she get confused over a problem im always talking to her telling her that i love her helping her with her problems n the bad ting is that everytime i tell her someting i always get to be right. please what do i do her mom is in juarez n she never met the 'dad' she even called herself a bastard once n i just told her not to call herself that way never again if u can find her mom it would be the most happiest ting for her n me please help me fin her her name is martha garcia viesca please help me with this more

Open Question: How can I stop thinking about bad things?

I wrote this before but I don't think i wrote it properly and got loads of crap replies. For some reason I can only think of bad things lately and I want it to stop. Examples are bullying , past girlfriends and so on. I can't really take any medication or see a psychiatrist so I am wondering if their is any books/audio books that deal with forgetting about things. Like self help guides. I watch shows and play games to help me forget about it but I can't do that all the time. Something like Paul McKenna I can make you thing but for forgetting things. Thanks all :)Make you thin* more

Open Question: I have this bad gut feeling my boyfriend is cheating?

In the past I caught my boyfriend doing tons of "online cheating" I was totally devastated and it really made me sick. I decided to forgive him because I guess at that time we weren't that serious and I wasn't 100% innocent (not cheating just not 100% innocent) Anyways, he has changed and it definitely shows. He is changing because he wants too ( he says) he left all that behind, closed the sites etc. But now recently I have this gut feeling he's cheating... (ya maybe it's a little insecurity but it's there!) the same feeling I had when I caught all his stuff before. We have each others passwords and I don't know how he cheats since he spends a lot of his time with me but who knows? he might have just gotten sneakier?? This gut feeling won't budge. What do I say to him? more

Open Question: Why would my alternator be over-charging the battery? up to 19Vs at idle?

I have an 84 Mustang with a 5.0 engine. The alternator is brand new, battery is brand new, voltage regulator is brand new. At first it wouldn't charge the battery even after i replaced all that so i took it to a mechanic cuz i couldn't figure it out. He said he thought the voltage regulator was bad so it must have been a bad one. When i got it back the battery was charging but by the time i got it home it was up to 14.8. Then i went to my friends house and one of the caps on top was blown off and it was charging at the low 16s. Then i brought it home and it was in the mid 17s, so i assumed i just got got another bad regulator (i tend to have horrible luck) so i went and got a 3rd one. I noticed when i was taking the mechanics off he had it wired different then my electrical diagram shows to have it. So when i put the 3rd one on, i wired it the way the diagram showed and it wouldn't charge at all. Then i tryed the way the mechanic had it and it started charging too much again. The only difference between the two is switching the yellow and orange wire around. Anybody else ever have this problem? Any help would be MUCH appreciated. PS: all the regulators have a 4th wire terminal labeled 'I' That isnt on the diagram, and theres a red wire that isnt on the diagram. Ive both the digram setup and the mechanics setup with it on the 'I' terminal and off and it never made a difference. more

Open Question: north korea did a nice little display for july 4th. is it time to show them how to do it properly?

its been over 60 years since we had a really good display,and we aint heard a bad word from the japs since. although i did get sold a really k r a p toyota once. more

Open Question: plz help me plz help me.... :-(?

hi all i never wanted to ask this in here again but i jus couldn help it... plz answer me properly cant tell how sad n guilty i am. i have or had (i shud say) a gf my one n only but she kinda broke up with me things r not goin fine v have been in love for about 6yrs now v were happy together but i messed things up i dont know wat was i thinking i asked another girl a stupid thing (texted her) but after asking that i felt so guilty like never b4 i cant even tell how guilty n sorry i am but i didnt mean to ask such a cheap thing its very personal guys i cant tell wat but guess if u can (i didnt ask for xxx) but its kinda vulgar but not as bad as xxx... but after the next moment itself i felt very sad n damn guilty for wat i did. then i kept it very secret i have told the top most secrets of my life to my gf but i kept this from telling her which made me feel even more guilty about it but then one day i told her i didnt wanna keep this from her i jus wanted to be honest with her as i always have... i wanted her forgiveness guys i didnt wanna make things worse but the time i told she got very upset n angry at me n that made my situation even worser than ever i started feeling even more guilty that i couldn even face her i begged her did everything to convince her that i didnt intend to do that. i didnt wanna lose her i was honest with her i thot she'd understand but everything went rong terribly rong n its been a very long time since i told her this n may be i deserve this punishment shes giving me but guys i dont know wat to do m 100% honest n true to her but she doesnt understand that i know its my mistake n it was i to screw things up but i dont know y... can anyone plz help me? n like i said its been almost a year since i told her this but she is getting away from me as the time passes by i lost her :( she knows i love her still but the wound she got BECAUSE OF ME hasnt healed yet. please give a serious rpy dont make my situation worse please i jus need help n m gonna show this to her so please u guys tell me wat else can i do to prove myself innocent m in terrible pain m goin thru now no words to describe how much pain m goin thru physically n mentally... she was like a great treasure to me n i jus lost her plz help me wat can i do? :(thank u for reading this patiently.. please help dont make me feel all the more guilty with ur answers m in the verge of death :(thanks " kater" well i already did that too but how long can i wait? i jus left her alone she probably hates me after that. m livin in a different state now n she is in the other end :(well of u guys r rite n i did leave her all on her own but m jus getting impatient even a day without talking to her feels like a year to me she USED to text me alot ya i mean ALOT but not now she loved to talk to me but not now she still gets damn angry if i talk about it i feel grave dead but i honestly dont have anyone except her she knows it very well. more

Open Question: how to deal with annoying roommates?

I am losing my mind, no joke. When I first moved into this town house (which is 3 bedrooms and 2.5 baths) it started with myself, my brother, and 2 friends. Everything was fine, then we decided to take in one of our other friends because he had no place to go and he thought he had a job in the city. That fell through, now he has been living with us for 3 months while being unemployed and has showed no motivation towards getting a job. All he does is sit around playing stupid video games and eating whatever food i buy! It drives me insane. onward with the story. Shortly after this roommate moved in another one did as well. This guy is even worse. He just wants to party all of the time, which i am not into. He leaves dishes all over the place and is just an all around slob. He also drinks like a fish! Then he decides to take it upon himself to invite his girlfriend to come live with us as well who is just as bad as he is! I have no idea how to deal with these 3 people. I suck at confronting people so I really have no idea what to do. any suggestions? more

Open Question: SO me and my boyfriend?

so i dont know what to do anymore me and my boyfriend fight all the time i truly love him and i know he loves me it is like he does not know what he wants from me i know i b**** alot but i dont know i lvoe him we been not talking very much everyone says it will get better through out the weeks it been a month and it is getting bad i miss him how do i show him that how do i get him back guys tell me what makes you want your ex more

Open Question: Why can't I put my mind at rest?

Hi, I know many individuals, will find this utterly pathetic but I don't care. I know a substantial amount of people, have said they are depressed about the passing of Michael Jackson but I am genuinely upset about it. I can't stop thinking about him, listening to his music, or watching videos of him on youtube. I just can't help but feel guilty about the fact that he was convicted, of being a child molester and I feel so sorry that he was so misunderstood and lonely (in my personal opinion, this is the worst feeling one could possibly experience) Michael stating himself that he used to " wonder the streets searching for someone to talk to." I feel such resentment, to the media for producing so many false stories about Michael Jackson for example it was said, that he " bought the bones of the elephant man" and " he slept in a hyperbaric oxygen chamber therefore slowing the aging process, so that Jackson may be able live until the age of one hundred and fifty." I know these may be strong and perhaps untrue words, but I believe if that particular industry did not tell such lies about him then perhaps he would still be with us today. It just hurts me so much that the public believed the untruths that the press concieved about him, which gave the people of the world an unfair, tarnished perspective of him. The only thing that would put my saddened mind at ease, is to think that if I am blessed and privileged enough to go to heaven that I would meet him there. Do you think i will meet him? I always wanted to see him in concert or meet him just to simply say "I believe you." (although this was highly unlikely, as I live in England and i am only a few months away from my sixteenth birthday so I can not afford concert tickets) I know it appears that I am deeply obsessed by Michael Jackson although I am not, I just can empathise with him as from time to time I feel well.....rather lonely (not that I can understand and compare our feelings as we are both under completely different circumstances). Please do not judge me and be like the narrow minded people that believed the lies, about Jackson you may believe that I am a dumb, idiotic kid who thinks she is upset but really isn't. I am. I am a smart, compassionate person so no wonder I get so frustrated when opinionated individuals, twice my age and more believe the ridiculous rumours about Jackson and will judge me for wrting this and asking you for your advice. I suppose I took advantage of his wonderful talents whilst he was still present in the world. I guess in this case the saying is true " You don't know what you've got until it's gone." Many thanks for your assitance, best wishes. P.S - R.I.P Michael Jackson, I learned to moonwalk for you to show that you truly inspired me and to give you a little something back. xxxDo you think I will be privileged meet him in heaven?Do you think I will be privileged enough to meet him? more

Open Question: why do some guys wear their pants down so low, their entire butt shows?

i don't get it. as time goes on, it just gets worse. i seen the BET awards and guys on there have a belt on but their pants are like middle thigh. i just don't get it. how 'cool' do you REALLY look if your not able to take a step without holding on to your pants? more

Open Question: Clean question about gentlemen's club ettiquete.?

Question is was I out of line or her? Details - I went to this gentleman's club last night and had gotten a dance and ordered a few drinks. I was about to leave when this other dancer came by and started talking to me, I mentioned to her that I was just relaxing, watching the show, which is usually code word in these places for "not interested in a dance". She asked if she could sit down and I said "ok, sure but I'm about to leave in a few minutes". So she sits and we talk. She has or gets a bad case of the hiccups. I try to get her to hold her breath and some other things to see if those help. They don't. So I ask if she has tried drinking something (to help with the hiccups) which she interprets to mean "can I buy you a drink". Thats not what I meant but I figured she interpreted it that way so I will go ahead and pay for her drink. The waitress is called over by the dancer and she orders her drink, then she notices my drink is empty and tells the waitress to bring me another of the drink I'm having. At this point I tell the waitress no, I don't want anything else. The dancer insists and I repeat no but the dancer still insists. The waitress leaves. while gone I tell the dancer that I really don't want a drink for myself. while we're waiting the waitress walks by on her way somewhere. I get her attention and reiterate, that we only want one drink (the one I'm paying for the dancer to drink). The dancer once again outshouts me and says bring two. I say one, she says two. So the waitress arrives and sure enough she has two drinks. I ask her how much is the drink. she states a price, I say "is that individually?" to which she replies "no total". By this time the dancer is realizing I am only paying for the one drink so she says "are you going to let her pay for that out of her salary?" to which I reply that "I only ordered one drink". At this she gets angry, pays the waitress and leaves. So heres the thing, some may say I was being cheap (even though I was paying for the dancers drink) and had already paid for a few drinks already, still I don't feel like I should pay for something that I not only said once that I didn't want but TWICE. so what is your take on it? Should I have paid, Should I have not paid, I mean I'm sorry the waitress would have been stuck with it but it's not like I didn't try TWO times to tell her I didn't want another drink, more

Open Question: Is Barrack Obama a great American?

Barrack Hussein Obama.... WANTS TO GIVE US MORE MONEY BY TAKING IT AWAY Obama's Cap and Trade plan will raise American families taxes by $4,000 of which about $700 - $800 will be redistributed to the needy. The other $3,300 will be used to pay for his stimulus plan (which quadrupled the national debt), universal healthcare ($1.4 trillion), and other plans. If you want to compare his spending with Bush, look here: http://blog.heritage.org/2009/03/24/bush-deficit-vs-obama-deficit-in-pictures/ ASSOCIATED WITH A DOMESTIC TERRORIST (BILL AYERS) A New York Times reporter quoted Bill Ayers saying "I don't regret setting bombs" and "I feel we didn't do enough", and, when asked if he would do it all again as saying "I don't want to discount the possibility." Obama and Ayers have stated they had no close connection, yet there is evidence that they worked on the same council for 3 years. Obama even had a fundraiser in Ayers home for his first campaign. The fundraiser was "a small gathering of about a dozen people" so they most definitely interacted. ATTENDS RACIST SERMONS WITH AMERICAN HATE SPEECH Reverand Wright is quoted as saying that the "damn Jews" control the White House. He is also quoted as saying "God damn America,"that America is "killing innocent people," and that America invented HIV/AIDS as a form of genocide against its own people. BORN IN KENYA, NOT THE UNITED STATES Despite Obama's birth certificate from Hawaii (which took a while to produce...probably because they had to make it). Someone is lying. According to Obama's Kenyan (paternal) grandmother, as well as his half-brother and half-sister, Barack Hussein Obama was born in Kenya, not in Hawaii as the Democratic candidate for president claims. His grandmother bragged that her grandson is about to be President of the United States and is so proud because she was present DURING HIS BIRTH IN KENYA, in the delivery room. -This, according to several news sites and Pennsylvania attorney Philip J. Berg who is, surprisingly, a life long democrat himself. Berg is the former Deputy Attorney General of Pennsylvania, and he has an impressive background in his activities as a democrat, but his support for the party seemingly stops when it comes to his trust in Barack Hussein Obama. RAISED WITH ISLAMIC INFLUENCE OVERSEAS His father was a Muslim and mother was an atheist (how is Obama a Christian?). His parents divorced and his mother got remarried to another Muslim. Barack Hussein Obama attended schools in a dominantly Islamic Indonesia for 5 years. I am not saying all Muslims are bad, I am saying Obama is lying through his teeth. DESPITE BEING CHRISTIAN, FINDS CHRISTIANITY OFFENSIVE When Obama gave a speech at Georgetown University the White House asked them to cover up a symbol representing Christianity, despite Georgetown being a Christian school. If Obama spoke at a mosque, we all know he would NEVER ask them to hide the Koran or the crescent moon. WANTS TO PUT YOUR FAMILY AT RISK "The most foolish mistake we could possibly make would be to allow the subject races to possess arms. History shows that all conquerors who have allowed their subject races to carry arms have prepared their own downfall by so doing. Indeed, I would go so far as to say that the supply of arms to the underdogs is a sine qua non for the overthrow of any sovereignty. So let's not have any native militia or native police. German troops alone will bear the sole responsibility for the maintenance of law and order throughout the occupied Russian territories, and a system of military strong-points must be evolved to cover the entire occupied country." --Adolf Hitler Obama, like Hitler, wants to rid of us the 2nd Amendment. If the British had done the same thing, we would have never achieved our freedom. The purpose of the people having weapons is do defend themselves from an unfair government, and rise when necessary. If the Jews had guns, perhaps 6 million lives could have been saved. WANTS TO IGNORE ILLEGAL ALIENS The Bush Administration proposed a rule to instruct employers how to deal with the "no-match" letters to ensure that employers don't continue to employ illegal aliens. By Obama gutting this rule, not only would illegal aliens be allowed to continue in their jobs but the Obama Administration would also be turning a blind eye to those illegal aliens who are committing felony identity theft by using the Social Security number of an American citizen or legal immigrant! WANTS TO PROSECUTE GOVERNMENT EMPLOYEES FOR DOING THEIR JOBS Obama sold out the CIA for using waterboarding tactics yet refused to produce the entire document so we wouldn't know what information they got from using those techniques. All we know is they used water boarding. Most likely he didn't produce those documents because we would all see that water boarding has resulted in gaining valuable information to save American lives. FAILS AS A PUBLIC SPEAKER WITHOUT A THe also bows to the ruler of Saudi Arabia, but not the Queen of England, our closest ally. He apologizes to the rest of the world for America's actions, no pride in his own country. more

Open Question: why is boyfriend ignoring me after argument?

ok, well its been going on 10 days now. My bf or so called bf will not say one word to me. The last time I saw him we had an argument and I'm the one that left his place upset. I don't get why he is so upset with me and ignoring me? I have a feeling he is just fed up and wants it to be over, but i can't imagine this really. The fight was stupid and wasn't even that big of a deal. He had even said he really wasn't that mad that morning. Maybe I should have not gave him the cold shoulder, but I woke up in a bad mood and was still upset at him. I can't help it he was insensitive the night before. What hurts is he never called to see if I got home, that was on a wed....ok i tried to call him next day about 4 times and got nothing, i tried a few other times that week until that Sunday night . I saw him on AOL and i swear it had to have been him. I said "why are you ignoring me? ".....and then i got further upset and i forgot what all i typed, but i was so mad. To me, it looked like he was online and deliberately not saying a WORD to me. Ive sent varies messages on other messengers he has as well. There is no way he didn't get them. I actually got so upset and said goodbye...its over, but ive done this before when I was mad, so it doesn't necessarily mean it is.......but i guess i got the hint he doesn't care if its over or not, so i went ahead and said it myself. I just think i deserve at least a word from him. Ive known him for about 8 months. Just the other week he said he loved me with all his heart, and wanted me in his life. What can he do to show me this....blah blah. This is when we had another disagreement. He was like he was so depressed not talking to me and couldn't go another day. He really seemed to love me and wanted to be with me. I don't see how one little argument could cause him to avoid me like this. Im scared it really is over, and it hurts because how could he treat me like this? Why would he not try to talk it out. He told me personally that we need to communicate better, and that he was like"you dont just break up with someone when you have an argument...you talk it out". It makes no sense. I wonder if he is full of lies. Ok,so maybe i should not have continued to try to send messages and all, and as of now im going to ignore him and just see. But you would think if a guy truly wanted to be with a girl and cared he wouldnt pull a stunt like this? How can one argument cause him to be DONE with this relationship? Does he just need space....his is playing hard to get.......did he meet someone else? Is it some sort of childish game.Is he avoiding me, due to confrontation because he thinks Im still mad at him????? I just dont get it. Opinions appreciated thanks.....To the "good2u" user..thanks for the comment, you clearly are a loser to even respond with such a rudea** comment.....F*** off..im sure everyone ignores you. i figure i had to add more detail to accommodate ignorant ones such as yourself ...we wouldnt want you to be confused more

Open Question: Okay, so I'm disabled. But what does it really mean? Does anyone else have internal problems that classify...?

... Them as disabled but feel like a fraud because they don't have anything to show for it? I've spent the last year of my life in and out of hospitals because I have a condition called 'abnomally fluxuating auto-immune hepatitis'. Basically means my body is attacking itself and would succeed in killing me if it weren't for this brilliant cocktail of drugs they've got me on. I went to Thorpe Park recently and because I'm 'disabled' I get to walk to the exits of some of the rides without queueing. My life is very affected by my illness- I can't sleep and I get muscle problems because of the medication and it will only get worse. I'm exhausted all the time and have agonizing stomach pains. I fall asleep everywhere. Because I don't have anything to show for it (except using crutches) I feel like a fraud. Does anyone else have the label 'disabled' who feels similar? Thank you for your input.I'm 22 years old, female. This won't go away, will never get better and will only get worse.I only use the crutches sometimes but unfortunately I'm having to use them more and more frequently. more

Open Question: Permanently insane cat (help)?

I rescued a 6-8 week old kitten about five years ago from a farm. She was blind from an eye infection, severely emaciated, had actually crawled behind a crate to die. It's five years later and while she loves me in her own way (sometimes very sweetly) her tortoiseshell/inbreeding, lack of socialization when very young, etc. has never left her. I accept that K.C. is not "quite right" in the head. She will rub up against you and suddenly viciously attack you. I've learned her moods and for five years we have lived rather peacefully. In effect, everyone is scared of her. Even the dog, who gives her a wide berth. She was neutered at five months but has her claws. (I do not believe in declawing.). I've even tried various medications. One made her both nearly comatose and violently ill. Others (my vet has actually prescribed prozac) I simply can't give her. She is not a cat you can give pills. She refuses wet food (even tuna), and the idea of holding her a forcing a pill down her throat is laughable. Only one of us would survive that, and it's not me. I'm committed to her, and love her very much. About six months ago, a stray male kitten showed up. Starving. Over time, I took him in. Had him neutered, and vetted. He's now healthy and VERY sweet. His name is Dexter. I tried to find him a home--since K.C. will not accept him (even after six months, her aggression towards him is VERY severe--even the sight of him is enough to turn her into a completely while, puffed up, manic creature who will attack anything in her way). I have not been able to find him a home. So, six months later, they are still "living together" although in separate, secured areas of my house. Dexter's home is my large fully furnished lower level. K.C.'s is the rest of the house. At least two times a day, K.C. is locked in my bedroom for a couple of hours and Dexter gets the run of the main living area for cuddles and socialization. He gets along great with my dog (who is terrified of K.C.). A wonderful cat, who deseves better than he's getting. I tried everything (including what a professional cat "whisperer" recommended) when I couldn't find Dexter a home (in this economy, cats have become disposable; no one wants an adult male orange tabby). I did the progressive introductions, but K.C.'s aggression got WORSE not better with each step that had them in more contact. (I did the separate rooms, followed by the seeing each other, etc.) I am afraid to just let nature take its course. I am afraid that K.C. would do serious damage to him if she got to him. (Dexter is completely baffled by her hatred of him; he's not aggressive to her at all--but after a couple of intense chases where he ends up cornered behind the washing machine while she frantically and viciously tries to get to him--he is scared of her). I even have cut a small cat door in the door between the downstairs and upstairs, and put see-through metal chicken wire in the hole but K.C. will literally throw herself against it trying to get through it--so even that now has to be blocked. K.C. was the first cat I have ever owned. From day 1, once she got better, she goes between being very loving (sleeping with me) to attacking me. I can pet her for short periods of time, but she very quickly turns on me. She will curl up next to me on the couch for long periods of time, but even a short pet can rile her up to where she will claw me. I will not take K.C. or Dexter to the shelter. K.C. is completely unadoptable, and Dexter would be fighting with dozens of cats for adoption--most of who are being euthanized quickly because there are too many animals that need adopted and two few people adopting them. I'm desperate for any ideas to make this work. I've read so much that I just need to let it happen. But, I have great fears that Dexter will be seriously injured. Karen more

Open Question: i no i sound horrible but this is driving me crazy?

i no people are going to say "he has a girlfriend bak off" and "i hate girls like you HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!" but i do need help wen i started my new school there was this guy called harry he was realy sweet and everyone sed that he had never had a girlfriend. i realy like him and we got taking but things took a turn on my 2nd week. you see harry was never the popular one, nobody took him seriously because he was classed as a geek. he didn't have many friend so when i started liking him i was quickly loosing every open door that i had moved skools to get!! and being the stupid shallow idiot i am i quickly changed my mind about harry, just for popularity!! afew weeks later a boy called chris asked me out, he was the most popular guy in the school and wen i said yes i quickly made some amazing friends!! i was realy popular and i seemed to have everything but allways in the back of my mind i still liked harry. but wen jojo came along that quickly changed. jojo bullyed harry ALOT! and i was was determind to become jojo's friend. and soon i found myself best friends with jojo and bullying harry. im not goin to lie I WAS HORRIBLE!!!! realy mean to him i was making his life a misery and i felt horrid. i became depressed and tried to commit suicid many times. then things got worse... it started when me and chris broke up the way i felt about myself and the debt i had on harry was overwelming and the first thought i had to sort it out was, break up with cris. but this was a big mistake!!!!! chris turned against me. jojo followed and befor i new it i had nothing!!! i was the one being bullyed and you no wats worse?? harry had taken my place. everyone suddenly liked him. that was a year ago. harry now has a beautiful gf and tones of friends. both jojo and chris have left the school. i try to be friend with harry but i no he could never 4give me. and i still feel horrible about what happend. and i no every1 will hate me for this but i realy have strong feelings for harry so what should i do about that? so i guess what im trying to say is how can i show i have feeling for him and he already sed he doesnt like me :( more

Open Question: Why am I having such a bad summer?

First of all my dad hates me and kicks me out of the house and isn't talking to me. Then this boy tells me he likes me and I already told him I don't like him but to make him feel better I said that I was always a little attracted to his personality and then the boy goes "oh sorry I didn't mean you." Then the one time I'm having fun at this stand up show I put my phone down on my chair for literally 10 seconds to applaud and it's gone. I didn't get the comedians autograph and it turns out some ass hole from Philadelphia stole it and now wants $20. My mom now hates me as well as my dad and I'm punished for the entire summer and I have to come up with $300 to pay for my phone. Not to mention I broke my computer a week ago so I have to come up with an extra $1000. Oh and now I can't go to a concert that I've been looking forward to since March, and coincidentally it's in Philadelphia. Is it just me or does God just want me to jump off a bridge? more

Open Question: I am having a problem getting into my e-mail.?

I can bring up the sign in page and it shows I have e-mail but once I try to view my e-mail it pulls up a blank white page and at the bottom it shows the word "done". I have been having this problem now for 2 weeks. A couple of times it did let me get in but the last couple of days it has been really bad and I can't get in to view e-mail at all. This also happens when I try to get in from another computer. more

Open Question: Why was i born the ugly one in my whole family? Why me?

iv always been the ugly one, im a girl..i look like a boy, all my cousins are so pretty, and im so ugly, so disgusting..i got bulluied in primary and secondary, no one liked me, they made me feel like a bad person, nobody wanted to hang with me, then in secondary school..after year 9, i got insecure, i could see my uglyness that everyone could see all along, and i went into a shell, i didnt talk to anyone, everyone knew me as the "depressed ugly girl who wants to kill herself"..now in yr 12 (college)..i think i look a lot different from primary and secondary, in secondary school i used to wear so much makeup that i looked like a drag queen, my eyebrows were half off from the front, i was a mess, but i thought i looked good because all my other friends were doing it, what i didnt realise is how ever much i tried to fit in and be like them, i would never be like them because i was/am so ugly..but i realised that last month when i saw pictures of me when i was in yr 9..it was disgusting..the amount of makeup i wore to hide who i was..when i saw the pics i started crying, i showed my mum and my friends and they all said i look so different now, and i thought that too, i was so relieved i look so different..but now im thinking, a person cant change that much in that time..so i obviously look the same..and it disgusts me i feel so alone, i feel so frustrated, why me? why did god choose me? why did he mess up my life with a messed up family and no friends and no looks, and no education because i stopped going to school in yr 9 becaause of the bullying, and now im waiting to get into college for september..i did no exams, nothing, all because of my face..i dont go out anymore..im too ugly to step out, dont tell me i have BDD..i know all of the names your going to give me..i cant stand mirrors, i avoid them..i cover mine with a towel..i dont go to certain places because i know theres going to be cameras/mirrors there..the car mirror depress me.. why am i so ugly? why me?..and if u care that much that u want to see my picture..give me ur email address and ill add you onto msn and show you.. but that is not the point, i cannot see my "beauty" why? because i have none..im fed up of my life..and im crying whislt typing all this, i feel suicidal, i might die tonight..everytime i think of bulding my confidence..i see my face, my past, my bulluies and think; i cant do this, it doesnt match my face..they will laugh more

Open Question: what do you think, good or bad?

I hesitated then pulled back, when you said i needed to know This is the part where the real you started to show I was scared, this wasn't the person i grew to love And even that wasn't enough You said words I was too young to understand I refused, then you hit me and began to demand I cried and screamed, you covered my mouth You ignored my tears and tore off my blouse It was short, but seemed so long My heart began to sing a new song Sad, depressed, no reason for smiles I ran away, walked for what seemed like miles I was alone, crying in fear For a long time, your voice was all I could hear Things weren't the same, and they still aren't today But who cares, I'll be okay more

Open Question: Transformers sequel: Love it, hate it, or ...eh...?

I hated it....typical summer hollywood blockbuster trash aimed at pleasing the brainless. Here are some reasons: PLOT: 1 question: What plot? SPOILERS SPOILERS SPOILERS: The good guys have to get a magical trinket before the bad guys or else it's the end of the world....I know this is the norm for comic book type of movies but it seriously was not developed any better than that. The plot twist was completely predictable and happened in such a way that I didn't give a hoot. Absolutely no character development even with the Optimus Prime. Throw in a ton of battling bots and sappy boyfriend/girlfriend scenes and you have Transformers. COMEDY: I'm not going to lie, the comedy was the best part of the movie...it had me laughing out loud several times and throughout the entire movie ACTION: All action scenes were ruined by the "shaky camera" technique as well as the "stuffing a billion different shots into 2 seconds of film" technique. These techniques have become the norm for action movies these days. I like to see the setup, execution, and follow up of an action, instead of just seeing random things shooting and random things blowing up. It was as effective as seeing a kid smash two toys together and making a bunch of explosion sounds. If you already have ADD then you probably loved the action scenes because it was probably very convincing to you. ACTING: Horrible. All girls are eye candy, all college guys are dorks, all military guys are the typical "i must talk like bad ***" No surprises here. CGI: I never really watched transformers much as a kid, but I could seriously never tell any Deceptacons apart. Was this a CGI flaw or just true to the comic/show? more

Open Question: Do you think some overweight people, don't have repsect for people who are thinner then them?

I strongly feel that some overweight people, don't have repsect for people who are thinner then them. I'm 20 years old, a college student, work part-time, and I work-out 5 or 6 days a week. I have a phobia of being overweight. I have nice biceps, and I can't help showing them off. I almost have abs, and my goal is to get 6 pack abs. Mostly everyone in my fathers family is overweight. Most of them have huge stomachs, and they are proud of it. I think having a huge stomach is disgusting, and that's nothing to be proud of. Last week I was at my fathers house, and most of his realives were there also. They were badmouthing guys with abs, because they know I'm trying to get 6 pack abs. I see a guy with 6 pack abs, and I wish I could be him. My fathers family thinks guys with abs are nasty. I was disagreeing with them, and saying how people with huge stomachs are nasty. They all got mad at me. Seriosuly I shouldn't say on this web site all they were saying about about people who are thin. (In my opinion) Most people who are really overweight are losers, they don't take care of themsleves. Guys with abs do take care of themeselfs. If you can't diet, eat the right things, and work-out, that's pretty bad. Who would want to be overweight? That's just sick...Im proud of my body, and I almost have abs... more

Open Question: Can I trust my wife again after she cheated and then recontacted the guy two times years later as "friends"?

My wife cheated on me with her co-worker five years ago and she told me about it after feeling guilty. I told her then to stop seeing that guy and that it was wrong since both were married and were hurting their spouses. She promised to stop but wanted me to let her stop it by herself and for me not to get involved. Well I did that back then and it kept going. So finally I put a tape recorder in her car and caught her professing her love to him and then I confronted her. He sensed things were getting dangerous so he broke it off and she got mad and used me to get back at him by telling all and allowing me to call to confront him. I was a big oh thang. I talked to his wife and had it out with him etc etc . At the end of the session my wife later said she spoke to him to confirm that he really meant the things he said to her about love while they were cheating. I told her to promise to let it go if she loved me but somehow it seemed that something was still lingering but I could not put my finger on it. Fast forward 5 years later and many hours of marriage counseling I am in hog heaven all seems well but my wife stares at me at times like she swallowed a canary. I say what?? She said oh nothing just looking at you. I get suspicious after it her action make me have flash backs of 5 years ago. I said to myself that I bet she is sneaking around with that bastard. After installing spyware on her computer, I discovered my loving beautiful wife whom I have 4 kids with has created an elaborate email network to avoid be caught talking to you know who. I got angry , cried and had bad thoughts really bad! I calm down made copies of her emails to her and got all email addresses she used and confronted her. She was soooo shocked she lied initially then she got made at me saying I didn't trust her and that if I did trust and love her , I would not be snooping on her. She eventually owned up and said she was only helping him with application for a business that we were in since he had financial problems. At this point I told her that he could be fucking homeless for all I care and that should not be her concern plus she supposedly stopped talking to him after the big blow up 5 year ago. She guranteed that he was non romantic etc etc and that she was helping him get into the same business that we were in!! I said F*** that bulls***. I begin to pondering how far the original affair went even though she told me he couldnt get erect when they attempted to have sex and only performed limited oral sex on her. I figured no man would risk his marriage for you multiple times over a span of 7 years if he wasn't getting sex!!!!! She denied it but I took matters into my own hands and confronted him on my own and told his wife which made her angry cause she said that she ended it by saying to him that this was wrong and that she could not help him no more. I cursed him out and her out for even communicating with each other since they had a adulterous history in first place. Since that time she had been more depressed and has partially with drawn and shown little interest in intimacy with me even though I rub her feet, her back and tell her how beautiful she is. She weighs 211 lbs now she weight 180 lbs when she cheated 5 years prior. Recently we had a fight about her neglecting me and all the old stuff came up because I felt that I working hard pleasing her to get crumbs while she gave herself to a man free of charge per say when he wasn't her husband and didn't pay the dues I did doing all this time of our marriage. Oh did I also mentioned she also takes medicine for depression for the last 8 years. I tried to give her excuses because of the depression but I think sh more

Open Question: deciphering the male species - help!?

ok.. the story is soo long, i'll summarise it.... - there's this guy, we dated a couple of years ago - we're been friends since then, but been getting closer the past 6 months or so - flirting etc. - he told me like two months ago that he had feelings for me (not alot changed, cos we were flirting and we acted like we liked each other anyways) - the last few weeks his been really hard to talk to (not asking me questions, giving one word answers etc). - i put some questions in an email and sent it (a quiz, for fun). - a couple of his answers really bothered me, and im not sure if im reading too much into it, or over-reacting, so i need some help! --- whats one way, you show the people you love, that you care? By being there (** this is weird, because hes so hard to talk to, and i'm the one putting in effort to txt, or start IM's etc.. but he has told me he loves me) --- "can you name 6 people that you can always count on?" he said his sister and his best friend. (**i was hurt by this, cos hes said to me that im one of his best mates... and i was frustrated cos ive always tried to be there for him, and the only time i havent, was when he pushed me away) me: so u dont feel like u can count on me? him: not in the same way as them, there my closest friends they have always been there for me and always will the end result is he says "i know that sounds bad but thats the way i feel" i say "ouch" he says: "i dont mean to hurt u" to which i respond "being unintentional doesnt hurt any less" am i over-reacting? should i be offended? more

Open Question: Evaluate me and see if im evil.. and will my son be?

Im gonna begin with a list of my bad parts, then a list of my good ones... I have lots of hatred in my heart, I get jealous easily, Im arrogant, Im judging, I seldom gossip but i do do it, I lie, I cheat, I steal, I wake up every morning wishing someone would give me a legal reason to kill/hurt them, I go out into the yard at 6am and look for cats to shoot because its justified since they walk on my car.., I have no real care for 90% of the humans who cross my path, I actually hate people with my heart, I cuss regularly, and I lose my temper very easily. Now for my good parts (I know what your thinking.. its probably short) But its not.. First, I like to help people figure out things that I know were hard on me whenever I can, I like to teach children life lessons and better there minds, I help old people around, I refuse to kill animals such as rabbits, Im very strong when it comes to honor and tradition, I care deeply for 10% of the people I know in my life (mainly my family), I go to church when I can, I most of the time think about others first before I do anything, Im constantly trying to prove my worth to people, Im polite, I show respect whenever needed, I give compliments often, I smile at sad people, Im always here whenever anyone friend or enemy needs to talk heart to heart, and I regularly try and get people to make amends and be nice to one another. Now with alllll that information... can someone tell me if im really as bad as everyone thinks? Most people dont know the good side of me, but those who do are either in love with me, or love to spend time with me. And i consider those people that 10%... So now you people be the judge. And also.. I want to know if when I have a son will he be this way as well. I know my dads a crook, and my moms got a temper so I theorize thats what made me like this. But yea, just let me know Thank YouThank you everyone for answering this question of mine. All of your answers really hit me somewhere and I will be taking it to heart, so rest well knowing your wisdom and time was not spent in vain. Now I can make the change....Well I take that back, except austin lol. Dangit austin lol. But I still gave you a thumbs up for at least taking time to read and comment. So thank you more

Open Question: Chris Jericho said that ''Ricky Steamboat Is Better Than 80% Of WWE Roster''?

Chris Jericho recently took part in an interview with the Honolulu Star-Bulletin to promote Sunday's house show in Hawaii. “It's a lot more fun to be a bad guy than a good guy.” Jericho said when asked what he prefers working as. “It really is an art form to become a heel that stays hated by the fans. As long as people are reacting and getting their money's worth, it doesn't really matter to me.” Jericho went on to speak about his match with WWE Hall of Fame member Ricky Steamboat on Sunday in Hawaii. “I'm looking forward to it. I don't really look at Steamboat as a legend. He's just a great performer and one of the best of all time. It'd be like playing hockey against Wayne Gretzky -- even though he retired years ago, he's still better than half the people on the ice nowadays. Steamboat, at 55 years old, is still better than 80 percent of our roster ... (and) being from Hawaii, it's a huge deal. It's going to be very sentimental for him and the fans, and of course I plan to spoil it and stick it in his face and all of the fans when I end the party and annihilate him in front of everyone.” WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS? AND DO YOU AGREE? more

Open Question: I miss him so much, is this a good way to get him back? Any suggestions?

I love my ex boyfriend so much, and I miss him. We where best friends, and even after we broke up, we remained extremely close, and we always flirted with eachover, and still said we loved eachover, things seemed to be going on track. And then we finished school, and he moved house, and lives like 2 hours away. And he works 24/7, he is running the family buisness right now. And then in a month, he is going on holiday for a month and a bit. He is going to be at carnivals, and I don't want someone else to catch his eye, and him to just forget about me, while he is away. We had an argument the other day, because he hasn't been in contact because he is very busy, and then he said he loves me, and that he is sorry, and that I should try and understand. He said he would try and come to see me when he is in the area, but I don't know when this will be, and he doesn't have his phone anymore, so how will he tell me?! I really want to get with him, and show him how I feel before he goes away, how can I do this? When he is always busy? Shall I just try to make him feel bad or something? And I feel like I'm being too needy. Someone that he knows, from our year asked me out the other day, and my ex knows I don't like him, because he was rude to me ages ago. Shall I tell my ex that he asked me out to show him that I do have other options. "LOL guess who asked me out...(the boys name)!" Or should I get a new boyfriend for now ( i know loads of boys, who have just asked me out, but don't have strong feelings for me or anything, so it wouldn't hurt them, and most of them have other girls on the side), and then go to my ex, and tell him that I am with someone else, but it just doesn't feel the same, and that I miss him. Because this would show that other people like me too! How can I get him to take some time off, so I can see him before he goes??!! And I really do love him, whenever we have argued, I am always careful not to say anything that would hurt him. And wherever I look I remember him, and the things we used to do together. I want to be with him more than anything. And we had been together for a year, and then he lost someone in his family (she had a stroke), and he was to stressed out (and I didn't really help, I went about things in the wrong way) He knows I love him, because we always say it eachover. We both have very extreme emotions for eachover. Like when we get angry, we get VERY angry with eachover. And we take things over board. And we both don't do this with other people. Just with eachover. We are both very calm people, I'm the only one that can make him so mad, and he is the only one that can make me so mad. We take out the strongest emotions in eachover. Once he even came close to hitting me, and he is a VERY calm, NON VIOLENT person. And he has only ever been like that with me. And I have done the same to him. more

Open Question: I miss him so much, is this a good way to get him back?

I love my ex boyfriend so much, and I miss him. We where best friends, and even after we broke up, we remained extremely close, and we always flirted with eachover, and still said we loved eachover, things seemed to be going on track. And then we finished school, and he moved house, and lives like 2 hours away. And he works 24/7, he is running the family buisness right now. And then in a month, he is going on holiday for a month and a bit. He is going to be at carnivals, and I don't want someone else to catch his eye, and him to just forget about me, while he is away. We had an argument the other day, because he hasn't been in contact because he is very busy, and then he said he loves me, and that he is sorry, and that I should try and understand. He said he would try and come to see me when he is in the area, but I don't know when this will be, and he doesn't have his phone anymore, so how will he tell me?! I really want to get with him, and show him how I feel before he goes away, how can I do this? When he is always busy? Shall I just try to make him feel bad or something? And I feel like I'm being too needy. Someone that he knows, from our year asked me out the other day, and my ex knows I don't like him, because he was rude to me ages ago. Shall I tell my ex that he asked me out to show him that I do have other options. "LOL guess who asked me out...(the boys name)!" Or should I get a new boyfriend for now ( i know loads of boys, who have just asked me out, but don't have strong feelings for me or anything, so it wouldn't hurt them, and most of them have other girls on the side), and then go to my ex, and tell him that I am with someone else, but it just doesn't feel the same, and that I miss him. Because this would show that other people like me too! How can I get him to take some time off, so I can see him before he goes??!! And I really do love him, whenever we have argued, I am always careful not to say anything that would hurt him. And wherever I look I remember him, and the things we used to do together. I want to be with him more than anything. And we had been together for a year, and then he lost someone in his family (she had a stroke), and he was to stressed out (and I didn't really help, I went about things in the wrong way) He knows I love him, because we always say it eachover. We both have very extreme emotions for eachover. Like when we get angry, we get VERY angry with eachover. And we take things over board. And we both don't do this with other people. Just with eachover. We are both very calm people, I'm the only one that can make him so mad, and he is the only one that can make me so mad. We take out the strongest emotions in eachover. Once he even came close to hitting me, and he is a VERY calm, NON VIOLENT person. And he has only ever been like that with me. And I have done the same to him. more

Open Question: Ending a unhealthy long term friendship?

Since there is divorce for failing marriage, I believe there is disolution of a long term friendship if it is no longer healthy, right? So here is the story about my current friend. I dont know if should distance myself from her since I dont find her to have any more positive influence on our friendship but constant drama she caused to get by with her life. I dont think I like to talk about her with my friends behind her back. but I can use some opinion here. Here is how it goes. We used to get along when we were in college. 1. After graduation, she turned into a ghetto because she kept on dating undatable guys assuming she can turn nasty guys into good guys for her. unrealistic and immature expectation eh? Each time she got hurt, she came to us for drama and relief but she never took our advice to stay independent. 2.She is very needy and gets ofended if we dont pick up her persistent calling (she has no purpose for a life after college graduation). 3.And lost her good family upbringing. Each time we arrange to meet up, we have to inform her twice to wait for her slowly walking out of her apartment into our cars. 4.She usually find way to put less portion of payment on restaurant bills by comparing our bills and then puts the bill through her card. So that we end up paying for her tips. She is not broke but got bad finance management. 5.We feel like we are in a friendship of convenience this way. As she turned into a bitter person, she sometimes say things that seem to be friendly in a way that bring us down to make herself happy (being a frienemy type of person). I think she made her choice to take it out on other people and live like a mean and vindictive person. 6.The worst part is that, this girl has got THE SKILLS in engaging non-stop argument by attacking loopole of words and inviting unlimited blames to avoid her sense of guilt for being inconsiderate. That means she can never be wrong unless we have to settle with her newly claims against us! I really hate that. That is why I am so tired of seeing her these days. I feel the needs to have good and mature friends. I dont want to lose a friend. But it seem that I dont really care about her since there is so much drama and negativity she brought to me and my other friend's life. I want to spend time to get to know positive people. People with goal and have a job intead of those like her being princess ghetto who think she is entitle to be bitchy to everyone because she is not happy and cannot take care of herself. Please show your opinion if you know how to end this friendship and have experience in dealing with this kind of situation. more

Open Question: Peritonsillar Abscess?

In May, woke up with a sore throat looked down throat noticing tonsils swollen, bubbles and pus on tonsils. Went to ER, doctor told me she believes I may have Quinsy (Peritonsillar Abscess). Next day in alot of pain, went back to ER, had throat culture and blood test for GF. Bloods came back neg, throat swap all I was told was fungus was grown but it was not resistent to penicillin. She prescribed me Penicillin (25 tablets 500mg) for ten days to which I started immediately. Noticing the Pus was then falling off and the infection seem to be clearing up I was all happy once again able to swallow. 14 days later after I finish the course, I then notice it returns. This time I got to my GP who I tell this story to ONCE again and he once again does another throat culture has a spastic fit over the doctor only giving me a 25 tablet dose, prescribes me another round of penicillin (50 tablets-4 per day 500mg). Once again come the end of the treatement which i believe worked out the be once again almost 14 days I start showing signs again of the same thing. Soooo.... back off the GP (same doctor) explained same thing once again.. he does yet another throat culture this time prescribes Erythromicin. So I got off and take that for my 6 days course (I think) come the sunday of course my symptoms are gone. After sunday (last tablet) I notice my tonsil area once again becoming red and inflammed. No signs of any pus spots (hooray) but to my dismay, my left tonsil is still the one that is greatly enlarged. Thursday brings new light. Mouth still red raw, popping pills (was suppose to see doctor the wed but cos of receptionist stuff up, I am moved to saturday until I get a call cancelling saturday now moved to monday) my chest hurts. Friday night in agony all night very little sleep and notice pus nodules re-emerging (esp one spot to which I believe is where the abscess is but doctors apparently NEVER listen cos they're always right) get up saturday morning still can hardly talk, in complete agony from my chest and throat (extra pus nodules and bubbles devolped) so to hell with it go back to ER. They do ECG cos of the chest pain and its all clear so I sit and awake to be called. Go in, doctor listens to chest and heart etc (does NOT check glands nothing else) looks down my throat and goes ohh yes pus we're going to put you onto Roxithromycin (pretty much same area as Rulide- added drug than Eryc) and onto prednislone. I have to go back in 3 days if it doesn't seem to get any better, I do have a doc app on monday to which I can talk to GP about it all. I am wondering if anyone else has had same experience or if someone who has any capable medical background could possible answer this. If you're gonna sit there and say (GO TO THE ER) well I already have and there is nothing else they will actually do. All I can ask for next is ENT and tonsillectomy. Any input would be much appreciated. I am currently on Roxithromicyn (150mg 2 daily for 5 days) and Prednislone (25mg 2 daily for 5 days) I also was prescribed Panadeine Forte for pain relief. The pain is literally unbareable and I am sick of seeing ppl who don't seem to look any further into it. I don't know if a throat swab can detect an abscess, but I sure as hell wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy cos my heard kills my chest kills and it makes you so ill and light headed. Also, is it contagious, my 5 yr old has a adenotonsillectomy in 3 weeks and if chances are he could catch the tonsillitis off me, I wanna get him onto something str8 away. ThanksDeffy been classified as bacterial hence antibiotics. My belief is because it always starts in the one spot being that the top left side of my left tonsil that it's possibly where the abscess is to which continues to spread the pus, but I will request another blood test. My last one came back fine apart from the normal white cell count which was within reason for an infection of it's nature more

Open Question: Am I at fault in this relationship ?

Ok so here's the basic setup. Last year, my girlfriend met this guy in math and started talking to her. My friends saw and said that he was a bad influence, even my girlfriend said he showed her weed and stuff. So i decided to ask her to not talk to him anymore. She agreed. The week after that, I foudn out she hasn't stopped. I asked her to stop, again. She promised to do so. And guess what..a third time, but behind my back. I confronted her and she said it was boredom. I stated that I've stressed over why she ignored my feelings and keep talking to him, which makes me jealous and completely sad. She knew how sad i was and promised to stop. But another week went by and i found out from my friend who was in that class saying that they've been talking non-stop. I confronted her saying that she's broken 3 promises and continues to lie to my face every single time. She said that she's just bored in class and he's the only one she can talk to. I've stressed over 5 months because of this situation and she doesn't understand. Does she just not care ? I understand I'm being too insecure but why does she have to do that ?I had trust in her before this happened, but now...it's just fading away.You guys obviously don't read the whole story. I stated that he is a bad influence...? I wouldn't just go up and say that for no reason.Bubble, Did you actually took in my message ? Who's standard ? Would you want your girlfriend/boyfriend to be affiliating with druggies and that sort of people ? I hope not. I never demanded. I asked. I didn't threaten or anything, i asked. In fact, 4 times. more

Open Question: Is an attraction to feet sinful?

I have a bit of background to reveal...if you want...Just read the related info and remarks and answer... I'm a guy who has what you might call a foot fetish. I wouldn't call my attraction to feet (specifically soles) a fetish. I would say I appreciate the whole female body...as far as what she likes to show when she dresses up. I have more problems because I like the whole thing when I see an attractive woman. Not just breasts, legs, behind, hips...but also face, voice, hairstyles, clothes that complement shape...and the feet are just the kicker to the attraction...However, I don't pursue right now because I have a lot of sexual feelings (which are sinful) based on these attractions. Also anger issues from situations where females (now women) who were VERY attractive and hot looking in school, burned me pretty badly. (This pain lead me to turn to and keep viewing porn related to feet.) Some left the deepest burns and scars and made me angry and suicidal. I don't know if I can ever forgive them...Which almost exempts me from the forgiveness from the Son when I fall (masturbate)...maybe I could forgive...But I just don't know if I can ever forget because the comments of these girls' friends still ring clear in my mind...and the action of leading on by the focal female did the most damage. I never was the "hottest guy ever" either. And to make things worse, the only woman who ever told me that I was "handsome" was my mother. I was always kinda big but I'm not ugly. I look good for a big guy...Especially since I got like 100 lbs smaller. I don't know whether it is something that I can or can't live without. But it is one of those sights (along with other areas of the female body) that give me that gut check sometimes. (Followed by arousal, erection...and most times later masturbation to material that is related to the attraction...which IS sinful) The feet have to look good though. (...Which in some cases cross ethnic lines based on observation of who takes care of them and who doesn't.) But back to the attraction that makes me think... I'm almost sure that feet is a sinful and perverse attraction. If not, then why is it so embarrassing to talk about? No one knows...except maybe my brother and parents...and now, who ever read this post. I feel dirty because of this thing that I've had since I was a little boy. The pornographic stuff that came into late teenage years however was sinful... (If figured that is the only outlet...since if I would ever get a wife, she would never accept the attraction.) But what about the attraction itself? The Bible (James) says that God is not the tempter but our own evil desires. (I think that is a bit unfair. But i'm working on the "getting to know Him" part.) If an attraction to wasn't evil, than why would I cringe in my spirit when my pastor says stuff like "from the crown of you head to the soles of your feet, you are HEALED!" and "The devil is under your feet!!!" during service? It's gotta be wrong. It's already embarrassing. I wear a mask over my spirit. I don't want to be labeled "PERVERT" but I'm sure an attraction to feet is perverse. This gives me a problem in church when I see women who wear the heels...or show their feet during service to get more comfortable. I'll bet that God's purpose for feet were not sexual at all. Probably just for support/stability of the legs for walking and standing. *Why would I have an attraction like this if it was sinful? *Is it a God given attraction? (Certainly doesn't feel like one.) *Scenario: Within marriage, if a male partner requests and/or engages in a method other than intercourse--involving the female partner's feet-- would that be sinful or forbidden...even with consent from the misses? Some people who are reading this are probably saying a what a "loser." But I just say walk a mile in in my K-Swisses! But if you have a good answer...enlighten me. more

Resolved Question: What did you think of the new Transformers movie?

I liked it alot. i thought it was a good movie. I did get a little annoyed by some of the charicters (twins, sams roomate) and wished they showed more of the other new transformers but i understand the time limit. One thing that concernd me was the language in the move. Bad language doen't bother me but this is supposed to be a kids movie and they were trying to make cussing funny. Bumble Bee rocked of course what did you think of the movie? more

Open Question: How can these two people ever get along?

My boyfriend's mom and I do not get along. Here are the things that we have done to each other. Her- She blames me for everything that her 25 year old son does. She even criticized me for telling him about a good internship (it was an hour commute). She tries to make all other family members dislike me, by blowing things out of porportion or plain out telling lies. She gets mad at her son for spending any money whatsoever on me. She questions the way I spend my money because I tip well at restaraunts. And I just don't trust her because she talks bad about everyone.. she even talks about how one of my boyfriend's exes was fat. Me- I get so outdone with her that I end up acting in ways that I normally do not act. My boyfriend, her, and myself ended up on a national television show and when asked if she was controlling, i said "yes". After the show, we made up but she continued her crap so I ended up telling her that I don't care about her approval (because it was driving me crazy. Also, one time I accidentally said in front of her that I think my boyfriend should move out of her house (he is 25 for goodness sake!). I've apologized for everything that I have done wrong.. which I know that when I said that on tv... that was pretty bad. I want to get along with her.. but I don't trust her at all. She brings out a bad side of me and just overall makes me feel like a bad person. What should I do? By the way: My boyfriend stands up for me and said that he doesn't mind if me and her just avoid each other (which is what we do now). more

Resolved Question: Is life worth living?

I'm sick of life and I don't really see any reason to stay alive. I have no purpose or reason and nobody needs me. Everyone would be better off without me. I´m a school drop out thanks to my parents and I have no future whatsoever. I feel as if all of my dreams and goals were taken away from me. I'm 19 years old I will never go to college and im still a virgin. I don't have many friends, I push people away and I don't let them get to close to me. I feel so alone and I can't trust anyone. I have no one to talk to about how I'm feeling. I've never actually appreciated life and I don't think I deserve it. I'm always depressed and in a bad mood, but I fake that I'm okay and happy just so people don't worry about me since I'm not worth it. I used to be very shy when I was younger, but now I don't really care. I've let everybody down and there are people that love me even though I've never done much for them or understand why. I'm useless and worthless not to mention insecure. Life scares me I don't think I was prepared to go into the world alone. I don't sleep very much and when I do I always have nightnares, I also don't eat much and I've lost half my weight or maybe more. I believe I have anemia since my hair has begun to fall off, not much, but still. I feel weak and dizzy most of the time almost to point of fainting. I've thought about committing suicide by getting OD on sleeping pills and I feel like I'm really close to actually doing it. I feel like everything is my fault and I can't do anything to help anyone. Why should I exist for no reason? Isn't it the same thing as being dead? There are so many things wrong with me. I wanted to graduate from high school and go to college, study a career, get a girlfriend, get married and have kids, but that will never happen. I also don't think I have the capacity to take on something that big. I've been like this ever since I was little, my parents use to fight a lot and my dad use to beat up my mom. That made me feel so useless that I wasn't able to do anything to help her. My dad was very violent and I was afraid to do something wrong because he would scold me real bad and beat me up sometimes. At first I was afraid of him, then I hated him once I got older and could defend myself, but now I just feel sorry for him.I don't speak to him. My parents are divorced my mom was a prostitute, that was part of why they were always fighting, that and for financial problems, oh and also that my father stopped working and never showed any interest on getting a job. My mom had to support my father for like seven years. Seven years of torture, fights, arguments and hate. My mother moved on she got together with a guy who's like 3 or 4 years older than me and she's like 33 or 34. I blame a lot on her mostly because she made me leave the U.S. just to follow my dad. I'm Mexican and Mexico sucks, schools and life styles. Its full of crime and corruption. She never cared for my education. I used to work so hard in school always staying over hours to get projects done on time. I was an A straight student, you could say that I was the perfect student. That was all for nothing, my parent have never told me that they're proud of me. I've always done everything they ask me just to please them, but it never worked. My whole family is broken I'm living with my mom and my two younger brothers which I don't speak to that much or my mom or anybody for that matter. My sister left to live with another family and my dad is living with my grandma still a failure by the way. I'm ashamed that scum like them are my parents. I'm not really sure if I love them. I don't expect life to get better or to find happiness, if there is no hope, neither will there be any let downs. I'm sort of an Emo although I don't dress like one. I hate myself and I hate everything about me, so I ask you, Is my life worth living? Sorry for such long post or if this is the wrong section, you can ignore it or just don't read it at all. more

Open Question: I was given 12 Botox shots in neck for painful dystonia about 4 weeks ago. I have since been very, very ill?

I got 300cc total....alot. The doctor who gave then to me is away until July8th so he cannot help me at all and when I did call he said that it was probably something else....too coincidental for the symptoms to mimic Botulism in my opinion. Since the website says it can take about a month to see the therapeutic effects (which can last 3+months) wouldn't it make sense that the adverse effects may peak at that time as well? Which would be right about now? I have never felt this much pain in my life. I started getting the expected mild flu-like symptoms about 3-4 days later after shots, did not think much of it...however those did not really go away, they have gotten progressively worse. The paralyzing of the muscles in my neck have slowly spread down to the top of my butt and around my ribcage making breathing feel difficult. I feel the pain and weakness down my whole back and because those muscles or so painful and feel paralyzed and weak it also makes breathing feel very uncomfortable. I have also began developing severe pain and troubling weakness in my arms and legs. I feel like I got hit by a bus. When I went to ER 7 days ago the pain and paralyzed feeling was only in my neck and had only spread as far down as my middle back. They gave me 20 pain pills to take 1 or 2 as needed and told me I would need to let it run its course. The pain pills ran out and even when I was taking them they did not take much of a bite out of the pain...unless I took the two I was allotted. I tried to only take one so they would last as long as possible. Well I am feeling much, much sicker and the pain is becoming more severe and is spreading to other parts of my body....I cannot do anything without getting very short of breath. I have taken 600-800mg of Ibuprofen and it does nothing. I am suffering so bad but I am afraid to go back out to ER. The first time I went out there they did not really even know that much about Botox for muscle spasms. The nurse had no idea what it was so I feel they do not think that I could possibly be one of those people whom on rare occasions is having a very severe adverse reaction to the Botox. They would make comments that my oxygen was 96-100% however they were missing the part where I said "yes but I have to work very hard for that. The worse the pain in my back is the harder the breathing is." I do not know what to do. I cannot imagine suffering another night or day. The idea of going to ER twice in 8 days complaining of the same things bothers me. Some of the doctors out there are very mean and rude and treat you like you are a waste of their time unless you are showing up on a gurney or having a heart attack. What should I do? more

Open Question: Convincing parents to get a tattoo?

So, I'm sixteen, going to be seventeen in October. I've been thinking about getting a tattoo for quite some time now, but never had any ideas or anything until a year and a half ago when my Grandmother died. I want to get a bamboo cross in her memory (it carries further meaning than I'd prefer to share). I feel like it wouldn't be a tattoo that I would regret later in life, and I'm getting it for personal reasons, not because it's the "cool" thing to do, like everyone at my school is doing. I know visible tattoos can be risky when it comes to getting jobs and such, so I plan on getting it somewhere not visible. I'd rather have it just so I know it's there, rather than to show it off to people. My parents think I'm getting it because everyone else is doing it, which isn't true at all. I want to get it for ME, as if this will help me cope with her death, I really can't explain it. My opinion on this situation is that if they don't let me get it now, I'm going to get it when I turn eighteen. I don't see why they won't let me get it now, as opposed to later. And for those who will tell me to wait, I want to get it now. I feel like I need something of her rememberance, because at the moment, I only have a birthday card that I was going to give her the month after she passed. My two older brothers understand the situation and have both offered to take me to get it behind our parents' backs. I've gone behind my parents' backs before, but I'd rather have their approval on this so they aren't disappointed in me if they ever find out (because parents being disappointed is wayyy worse than parents being mad). Sorry it was kinda long. Any advice is greatly appreciated.The thing that bothers me the most is that I can't stop thinking about it. She was the first relative who's death I've had to cope with. I've gone through deaths of teachers and friends before though. But it's like, she raised me while my parents worked during the week. I spent more time with her than I did my parents when I was little. My parents are aware of the fact that I want to get this tattoo specifically and are already aware of the significance. My dad thinks it's stupid, but my mom makes it seem like it's an okay idea, but when I turn eighteen. Char-Char, thanks. That really helped. I just hope I don't have to wait. Kat, most of my friends have gotten them done legally with their parents' consent (some have gotten them done by friends in their garages). more

Open Question: i need some advice please, sorry if its long?

should i give him another chance? these 2 girls that i use to be friends with kept coming up to his work trying to get his number so they could hangout with him and he made the mistake in saying yes to them. well apparently he was hiding the fact that he was talking to them from me because i dont hangout with them anymore cause i dont want to get into all that bad stuff again, anyways, long story short they went to his apartment and videotaped him saying a lot of hurtful things about me like how he didnt love me anymore and he hated me etc etc. he also bragged to them about how he has cheated on me and stuff. (which come to find out, is NOT true) they were only there about 15 mins..enough time to get him to say those things about me and leave. then they called me up and told me and showed me the videos. what happened was we hadnt been getting along lately and i guess he had just had enough and felt like rebelling..he also just gave into peer pressure..tryin to act like a badass in front of people. but he lost me, and i think he realized he lost everything. he took our relationship for granted and now he knows how important i was to him. (so he says) like i said it was blown up into way more than it should have been. they were just trying to hurt me and get back at me cause i dont hangout with them anymore...they knew i was happy with him. i guess they just like making other peoples lives miserable cause they arent happy with theirs.we have been dating for 2 years more

Open Question: My Teen Book, Some Feedback Please?

Following excerpts from my unfinished book. Even if you read the 1st paragraph and give feedback, it would be great! Sorry it's long like this :-(Thank you! Bam! Detective Debeauvoir slammed his fist down on the table in the interrogation room. I'd had my head lying on it, buried in my folded arms and the reverberation made me jump. I'd been going to sleep, you see, because I'd been there for more than six hours. They hadn't even offered me any coffee like they do in the movies to keep me awake. What was the world coming to? "Dolores Hidago, aged seventeen, current address is 115 Wheat Street, New Orleans, Louisiana. Is that right?" he said. I said it was and didn't ask to speak to a lawyer. I knew everything I said could possibly be used against me but I didn't do anything wrong, so I didn't need a lawyer. Did I? He'd already run my name through the system and it came back clean not even a parking ticket. I was a ghost, no truancy in school, not even detention. Teachers had nothing but good things to say about me and my grades were glowing. My gym teacher claimed I had real athletic ability and my art teacher said I had talent. Then the detective brought up Vernon Primson and a person who went by the name of Kid. He threw names like Little John at me, and spat the name Toby Jenkins at me like phlem. He wanted to know what I had done with my life, particularly the past week or so of it. So I laid it down for him, starting with my nickel and dime job. * Later, Delores Hildago, a teen drug trafficker, describes how they use teachers.* Substitute teachers were more like backpackers than they realized, only instead of state-hopping with backpacks full of clothes that needed to be washed, a substitute traveled the school system with a briefcase full of homework that needed to be checked. Subs operate on the fringes of academic society; they're never quite a part of things and they don't know what chapter you're on, either. And alot of times, whatever you're reading isn't something they're well versed in because their specialty is math and as of right now they're teaching band. Faculty treat them like they're invisible because tomorrow they'll probably disappear, and students who've been kissing their teacher's asses all this time for extra credit have to start over at ground zero, especially if the teachers' going to be gone for like, the last three months of the school year, or something. That's the worst. Three months isn't enough time to become the sub's favorite and earn those extra points, but it usually only takes a day for them to decide that they don't like you. All it takes is a spitball, or you're ugly, or you came in late, or they caught you whispering, staring out the window when they're lecturing, writing something when they're talking, passing notes and they catch you, passing gas and they smell it, whatever. We decided to use a substitute as a mule. His name was Bill Cuss and he was subbing for an art teacher named Mr. Halvangus, who was out with a severe case of angina. Bill Cuss wore glasses and drank a lot of coffee. Toby Jenkins said he had him fifth period and when he bent over Cusses' desk to ask about a drawing technique, he said Cusses' breath smelled like Alaskan tuna fish, Columbian coffee beans, Russian vodka, and Mexican reefer. His age was early-fortyish, and his hair wasn't gray or anything; it looked like like he dyed it brown with some kind of shoe polish or something. But it did bring out his eyes; they were blue, actually almost purple, and big, until he took off his glasses, then they were small, and his nose was greasy where the glasses had been, with hot pink indentations where they had rested. Mr. Halvangus was coming back to class in three days, which was way to soon for us, frankly. * Another Excerpt...* Miss Kenny was a new teacher at our school, a transfer from another one across town. She had sandy colored hair and wore glasses, was in her early thirties and wasn't married. I saw our principal, Dr. Deiter, showing her around a bit. As they walked down the hall together, she held some of her papers and lesson plans close to her chest like one of the students might jump up at any moment and steal them from her. I don't think her behavior was a reflection of our particular school environment; I think she was just shy and the materials she held onto were her security blanket. She wasn't on the payroll yet- our payroll- which gave us cause for concern because by the time she arrived, we had our vending machine up and running in the cafeteria. We manufactured fruit and soft drink products called Sappies (You sip 'em and you get the happies), from a professional warehouse in the area (run by our people, ofcourse). Our Sappies shroom drinks only came in three flavors- fruit punch, which was my fav., grape soda, which I didn't like too much, and strawberry soda, which, on the grading scale earSorry, it was cut off. Don't worry about the rest. more

Resolved Question: three anime's i kind of remember but not the names or the full plot?

ok i keep remembering three weird and/or lame anime shows that were on cartoon network when i was younger but not very well and i can't get them out of my head so i want to know their names the fist one was a Gundam show or Gundam like show in which the main character found his giant robot thing in a desert and it's like got magical powers but they are like Gundam's ( it wasn't Vision of Escaflowne) the second one was i think gundams but like little retarded gundam's that had annoying voices and was in cgi animation third and final was one of those fake anime shows were the main characters plugged into a matrix wannabe and every time they did plug in watching it practical gave you a seizure, and they fought lame monsters that looked like Pokemon and the main bad guy you never saw ever i hope i wrote enough info for someone to tell me the titlesim pretty sure the their one is Code Lyoko.i think the their one is Code Lyoko i never watched Digimoni think the third one is Code Lyoko i never watched Digimonya number 2 is gurren lagannya number 2 is gurren lagann more

Open Question: What can I do to try and fix my relationship with my step-mum?

I need to kind of explain the situation I am in. It is kind of lengthy. Sorry :P Well, my dad and my mum got divorced about 10 years ago, after having three children - me and my two brothers. We ended up living with our dad. My dad soon met another woman, who, for the sake of this, we will call Mary. Me and my brothers were fairly young when they started dating - I was about 5-6 years old. They dated for 7 or so years before they finally got married. While they were dating, me and Mary got on really well. She was so sweet to me and since I was not so close with my real mum for various reasons, I looked to her to be the mother I didn't have. My dad and Mary decided to get married, and so Mary moved in. We were so excited because we hadn't had a mum for so many years and she was so loving and nurturing to us, showing interest in us and etc. After they got married, things between me and Mary were still really good and we were super close. However, she soon got pregnant and things started to change. She became crabby and moody. Dad told us it was just hormones from the pregnancy and she would be fine once she had settled down a bit. Over time, however, she suddenly developed all these new rules in the house - we couldn't disturb her during certain times, we couldn't go in her room, we couldnt go in the same room she was in if she was feeling moody, etc. I was kind of peeved off about this but I kept trying to show an interest in her and be kind and loving and a good daughter. I thought it would end once she had the baby and then it could all go back to normal. Then, after she had the baby [a girl!], she didn't change back. The rules still stayed in place, and she was even more crabby and moody. I absolutely loved the baby and I wanted to spend as much time with her as possible, but dad said I should give Mary a bit of space because she was recovering from the caesarian and didn't get enough sleep because the baby kept her up a lot. I thought this was fair enough and gave her some space, but I wanted to be able to HOLD the baby just once, even just play with it and say hello. I was so afraid that the baby wouldnt know who I was because I never got to be near her and all I wanted to do was help out with her. Somehow, everthing I did was wrong. Every morning, I would give Mary a hug and wish her a good morning and ask how she slept, and just tried to take a general interest in her life. She stopped taking an interest in mine and barely asked me any questions in return. Her answers were always short and blunt. I could never hold the baby, or touch her unless I washed my hands thoroughly, was out of my school uniform, had someone supervising and had permission. I wasn't allowed in the baby's room or even in the general area of it. She started to get a lot happier once as the baby got older and she could get more sleep, but she and I weren't close anymore and she didn't show any interest in me or my life. I was always polite and loving to her and she would never talk to me unless I initiated the conversation. We started to kind of start talking again, but then she was pregnant again. Once again, the whole thing started. The baby [a boy!] was born a few months ago and I love him so much and with all my heart, but I never get to hold him, play with him or even speak to him. If I try and wave hello or take his attention for a little bit, Mary will suddenly start trying to get his attention away from me. Just little things, too, that make it worse is that she will never drive me or my brothers anywhere, ask us anything, make us things, buy us things, nothing. It's not like I want her to go and buy us stuff all the time, just want some kind of sign that she cares and that she wants us. She spends so much time and money and energy on her new children but none at all on us. She takes her daughter to art classes, and once, she came home with these cardboard doll things that they had made. She said to her daughter "these dollls are the people in your family" and there were only four dolls - dad, mary, her daughter and her newborn son. That hurt so much because it's as if now that she has her own family, she doesn't want or need me and my brother's anymore and we are just inconvenient extras. She then got selected to go in some minor newspaper article where the journalist asked her about her life. I saw the newspaper the next day and it was so crushing. In the first paragraph, she talked about how she was so happy to be the mother of her new daughter and son, mentioning their names, and went on to say how much she loved them and cared for them. Then, in the last sentence of the article, she said "oh and i live with three step children". and that was it. it was so hurtful to see that was all we meant to her and she hadn't even cared to name us in the article. I don't know what to do. I just want a mum. I have tried to hard to get this relationship to work and I don't know what to do. PleasP.S. I don't want to sound like some attention seeking teenager who just doesn't like not getting attention because that's not what is happening. I can't talk to her about it because then she will pretend to like me, which is probably worse than her not pretending. I know this sounds ridiculous but I just want her to like me - I don't want her to pity me and decide to pretend to like me, and I don't want to inconvenience and annoy her. I don't know what I want. I just want her to WANT me. But I don't know how to do it. more

Open Question: r&p: concert review #3!?

time for our third concert review: styx/reo speedwagon with opener .38 special(i included styx and reo speedwagon together as a co-headline because they played for the same amount of time) i have never really been a .38 special fan, and they weren't particularly entertaining live...not bad but definitely not blowing the doors off the place reo speedwagon was very good as i expected them to be, they are a band sort of geared to the whole arena rock deal and a large part of that is playing a solid live show...the only disappointment i had was that they got 2 of my favorite songs of theirs(can't fight this feeling and take it on the run) done within the first 4 songs styx was surprisingly very good, i was lowering my expectations for them due to the absence of dennis deyoung but james young proved a sufficient replacement, and overall they put on a very good show...my lone gripe here was that even with a limited amount of time to play they killed off some time with instrumental solos, which was cool but it cut out a couple of songs i would have liked to see them perform, but all in all a very solid effort so, what is your opinion on these three bands?sorry kyle, they closed with ridin' the storm outthey did play it more

Open Question: why are parents asses?

Okay so my life suxs for the most part. my parents dont let me do anything like nothing even we never do anythingo n the weekends and iam on summer brake havent did anything yet and school is gonna start soon to. iam 14 turinig 15 soon. when i ask to hang out with a firend my dad ask like he is having a stpid heart ack to change the subject i guess.i dont walk around the block he said i must have someone with my. Oh once i wanted to walk to my firends house he said no. casue it was getting late it was freaking 4pm. he calls my firends bitches he never met them. he is trying to home school me iam not doing that iam all ready issolated enough. and dont say he is trying to make my life the best it can be by protecting my if that was so then why does he foight with my mom when iam in the room and i have to here it when i get up in the moning. seruoily when i here that it makes my whole day depressing. iam pretty good in school i make b's and c's never did anything bad. he even told me that iam getting older now and your wanting to do more things. well why wont you let me go out anywhere. i dont really get it.i clean all the time becasue iam bord have nothing else do do better. like really i clean alll the time once i cleaned my whole room it was spotless and swept and everything i showed my mom she said oh it looks good and then walks away. please help what can i dookay god people its only what 2am iam kinda tired i know how to spell so shut up. and plus i do a lot around the house like alot way way more then my brothers and my brothers are older then me. more

Open Question: Who would get angry over something like that?

Yesterday, my friend came over and I showed her my bedroom because it was finally clean and organized. I was going through some stuff and I found pictures of me and her twin brother, from a photo boothe in my drawers (from when I was dating him) she saw me laughing, so she came to see what i was laughing at and saw her brother in the pictures with me (which she didn't know about) I then showed her the teddy bear that he bought me for my b-day a year ago and the cheesy b-day card that went with it that I kept in a boz in the corner of my room. After that, I found myself tallking about him the whole time that me and her were hanging out. I wasn't saying anything cheesy or bad about him...I just kept bringing him up. She tells him everything. I'm worried that she might've told him all of that. He talks to me every day since were really close...but today on msn, he just said "hey" and went offline....the only time that he only says "hey" is when he wants to talk to me about something serious or when he's angry. I wasn't at my comp, but by the time I got there, he already went offline. I think he may be angry at me and I feel really sad. But....Who would get angry over something like that? more

Open Question: Serious, and complicated friend issue?

I have 3 best friends, 2 girls and a guy. The 4 of us are a group, and then we hangout with other people too. But we are like a small group inside a big group, if you know what I mean. One of the girls in our group (all her girl a) has liked the guy for 3 years, but she never did anything about it because she doesn’t think she could ever get someone like him. She has struggled with her feelings for a long time, and he knows, he can tell, but she doesn’t know he knows, and of course I and the other girl know. Now this guy likes the other girl (girl b) a lot. More then I have ever seen anyone like someone; I think he loves her, but idk. This of course is really hard for girl A cause she likes him so much, and she sees him pining over girl b, it pretty much kills her. So girl B and the guy got really close, so he figured he would tell her how he felt. He couldn’t handle her not knowing anymore. He just… its hard to explain, you probably don’t understand that part unless you knew him. Anyway he needed to tell her (girl B) So he did, and girl B said “I like you too, but I couldn’t do that to girl A, she likes you too much”. The guy became devastated… he is really good at hiding his emotions so he didn’t show anyone (except me) how much this was hurting him. He started to hate girl A, but he would rarely show it. I couldn’t stand to see him like this. But I couldn’t tell girl A, or girl B what was happening, so I started talking to girl A (she knows that the guy likes girl B) and I said that I thought that girl B liked the guy. She agreed and said “maybe I should just tell her I don’t anymore”. So she did and girl B believed her. Girl B is obviously not who I thought she was. A week after she told the guy she liked him, she told me “I don’t like him anymore, you don’t think it’s a big deal right?” I was about to scream at her, she has no idea what the guy is going though! All for her! So she tells him “Even though Girl A doesn’t like you anymore, I don’t like you either. So nothing will ever happen between us, so... I think you should move on” (she of course said it nicer, but that’s what she meant) This sent the guy into something like depression. He started smoking, drinking every Friday and Saturday. CRYING! HE hasn’t cried since before puberty, so that was a long time ago. I don’t think I can get it across in words how bad it is, how much he needs her, and wants her… He said he would be happy just to be as close with her as he used to be, before he told her how much he liked her. And to top this all of, me and girl A are going to different schools, which is hurting the guy even more (the guy no longer hates girl a cause he realized it wasn’t her fault)! And girl B but I don’t know if she cares, she doesn’t show her emotions. Anyway, the guy is having a hard enough time losing me and Girl A, so next school year, Girl B promised him that they would stay friends, but the guy is worried she will find friends he don’t fit in with (she is more of a goody-goody, and he is more of a… opposite to that). He doesn’t know what to do! I don’t know what to do! I hate seeing him like this, she is all he talks about, he says the sweetest things about girl B and I think (but don’t say) “why do you like her so much, she wasn’t being very nice to you” I need to do something for him!! I’m really worried he might do something that could seriously harm him, or he might go into real depression. I already have a different friend who has clinical depression outside of this group... I don’t need another one. I need to help him, or get her to like him, and I want everything to go back to the way it was!! Before she made the mistake of saying she liked him… or before he told her… please help any advice would be good. (fyi, he stopped smoking cause girl B told him too -_-) more

Open Question: Red Line, Brown line , or taxi?

Is it safe to ride any of these trains to get to the Metro to see the Arctic Monkeys play ? I will be going to the show by myself and leaving around 6 or 5 in the afternoon . It will be my first time in Chicago so im a bit nervous. Ive ridden the metro in LA and the creeps and homeless people there arent to bad . Or shall i just get a taxi ? Last but not least when the shows over will i be able to hail a taxi back to my hotel. more

More Me The Best Of Times Show Me The Worst Results

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This Week’s Haul

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A Finite Reserve

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Die Another Day (2002)

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Salvation Diary 8

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On The Road Again (Jun 30 - July 3)

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My Subconscious Sent Me a Dream, with a Blue-Red-White Seal and Everything

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Useful Sites on Spiritual Abuse

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Short Survey

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Biological Conspiracy

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This Week’s Haul

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Update, Silver Linings & Happy 4th of July From Chloe!

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A White Legacy - Chapter 2.3

In the last chapter of A White Legacy, Alba discovered that Mortimer had an adopted daughter, Luciana Goth, a fact which he had been hiding from Gauri, whom he was dating. Alba then told him that he needed to have a baby with Gauri so that the legacy would continue, and that's what he finally did, a ... more

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wednesday july 1: gotta record a quote here from john liberatore

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My Subconscious Sent Me a Dream, with a Blue-Red-White Seal and Everything

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Halfway Home at the Halfway House - Part Five

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I might be missing some finer points of a metaphor here, but…

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Weekend Bender

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Maintaining Balance in Real Estate.

I obtained a Texas Real Estate license a few years ago because honestly, income from Feng Shui consults wasn’t enough to pay mybills. Wanting to combine Feng Shui, Staging, and my love of simply looking at houses, I thought that becoming a Real Estate Broker would offer the best of all worlds. What ... more

Daily Crasher: Cruisin' Grand

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Fiona Gibson

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Herculean feat

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Richard Loe : Coaches need to step up over 'inept' ABs

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Goodbye to the 'boys of summer'

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Anne Naylor: 12 Ways To Build Your Inner Strength

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The Week's Best Late-Night Laughs

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This devil wears hush puppies

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Kelly Slater Claims Santa Catarina Pro In Brazil

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USA TODAY - Economic woes cast cloud over racing's big weekend

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Sunday Mirror - ok! The best of '08

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USA TODAY - Our finalists mine Neil Diamond

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Grocer - Gillian Barker: Director-general Caravan, the charity for grocery people

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Deseret News (Salt Lake City) - The greatest gifts rarely come from a store

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Oakland Tribune - Letter imperfect: Celebrities at their worst

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Wind Speaker - Diana Blackman.(windspeaker confidential)(Interview)

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Chief Executive, The - Crusading against CEO pay

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